We are home. We went straight to Laura's for a lamb chop dinner. Kids were excited to see us. Mollie told me I will be dead when she has kids. I agreed with her. Also why do I wear red all the time. Why do I wear pearls. The short necklace was a engagement from Naomi and Manny Morris. and I have always loved them. Emma and Mollie both want to know why my hair is white.
Then over to visit brother in law Ernie. He is dying of double lung cancer. Diagnosed March 20, although he have been failing the past few months. He also has Parkinson's. He is confused and weak and it is very sad. He smoked every day that I knew him. And that is 50 years. If you are reading this, and you smoke, try to quit NOW.
Always issues coming home. My car tire had a nail in it and the tire was flat. So I got two new tires for the car. And the battery on my watch died. The air conditioning in my almost 12 year old car is not working.
I went to a Zumba class today for the first time. It was fun. Also went to a weight / strength training class. Very good instructors.
Sat. May11
We attended Alex Farber's Bar Mitzvah in the AM. He did a fine job. I do not like the rabbi at their temple. He is loud and clown / funny type. Very large fat man that walks around the sanctuary during the service and is talking to people all the time. I think it is rude and not approximate. He belongs in the front of the temple and should just run the service. Well he has some problem. It could be with the temple members, someone said. In the middle of the service, he began to cry. This was when we were saying prayers for the sick people. He walked out of the room and the wife went running. He eventually returned. They had a lovely lunch after the service. I love the sour cream bunt cake.
Friday was Grandparents Day at the K school. CDS school or Community Day School. First there was a breakfast. And it was the best. Lox and bagels. Coffee cakes and egg and tuna salads. And large bowls of fruits. Of course there was a little fund raising talk. We then went to Abe and Nathan's classrooms. I went to Nathan and Jack was with Abe. We did projects in the room. The Hebrew teacher did a lesson. They used the "smart board" to show a film. Nathan drew a picture of me. He put freckles on my face which are old age marks!. Then he asked me questions about myself. First date with grandpa and where we went. A dark bar in case I was a dog face! Favorite memory of childhood. Time I spent with my grandmother. She was quite an women. And she loved us strongly. Family was everything to her. Her mother died when she was very young. She was raised by sisters.
Written by Nathan
Smart board is the white board in back of picture.
This is the cafeteria main room at the school. It was first a church and this is the sanctuary. You can see the confessionals in the back. I grew up two blocks from the school and many of my Catholic friends and neighbors went here. CDS was very lucky to be able to buy the property. The church was also lucky to find a school that could use it and keep the building the same. They took the crosses down and any glass windows that were not right. When you are in the building, you can still feel that it was a church. There is also the building where the nuns lived. And a secret tunnel connecting the two buildings. They are going to dig it out this summer.
Then we went to eat lunch at our favorite Pizza place. I have been eating this pizza since I was a child. My mother though pizza was junk food and we almost never had it a home!
Jack took the boys to the movies in the afternoon.
Laura and I walked Murray Ave or went shopping. Then we went to pick Mollie up from Pre K. She was excited to have her grandma there. I missed grandparents day at the school and I am going to go one morning and do something special for the class. Laura bought her the long black skirt at Target. It gets very long in the back. She loves the skirt. She looks like the orthodox Jewish girls on the street in this outfit. They all wear modest clothes. And this would be the uniform for school.
Ernie is still hanging to life. There is 24/7 aides and hospice at the house. Joyce stays in the bedroom with him ALL day. I have been going over in the afternoon and make dinners. Joyce is upset about all the food in the refrig. Little bits of this and that. So Rosa and I are cooking up everything we see. Once Ernie dies, people will start bringing food and the refrig will fill up again. The past month food arrived along with what Joyce had in it. She lives in a condo. 8 apts. on a floor. But the party room and exercise room is on her floor. So only 6 apts. The party room is an extension of her apt. I use it to go the the bathroom. She has filled up the two refrig in the room. That is where she always has her parties. You can use two kitchens. Not a bad deal.
One night we ate salmon that was from someone had half baked. I then took all the vegetables in the freezer ( kale, broccoli , corn, onions etc.) and did a stir fry. We ate all the dumplings as a starch.
Chicken with pineapple, onion, dry soup mix. Pasta with seafood in it. A salad with all the vegetables we see. Fun is cooking, this way, in such a terrible situation.
Pasta with shrimp, pork and clam sauce
Salad
Chicken with pineapple, onions, green peppers, onion soup mix, wine.
Andy or Herman are at the apt. all the time. So someone is with Joyce. It is one week with hospice and the end near. Last Sunday we visited with Ernie. He was confused and wanted out of bed and to leave. We said we would see him tomorrow. He said he would not be here. I asked where he would be? He said at the big party or apt. Not sure which word. I thought he meant, he would be dead. Jack felt understood it as he was going to a party and was confused. Since then no one sees him and he is not responding to people anyway. Joyce does not want anyone to see him. So I sit in the living room, quietly. I go and cook in the party room. It keeps the noise and smells there.
The sister in blue. We all wore the same color one night.
Ruth 67, Joyce 75, Rosa 71
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